Getting over someone is a hard job. After all, the hardest thing to govern is the heart. The advice stated below may help you overcome this emotional obstacle.
Tips to Get over Someone
- Do a Fair Self-Assessment
Sure, the relationship has ended. Now you’re still picking up the pieces. Do a fair self-assessment of yourself APART FROM THE RELATIONSHIP. See yourself in a different light. When you’re in a relationship, you tend to depend upon the assessment of your partner. Go beyond that.
This time, assess yourself based on how you feel, and what you have learned from that relationship. It is important that you keep a positive state of mind and not let yourself be governed by ruthless self-pity. The first step in moving on is accepting that you were hurt and doing something about it.
Steer Clear from the Memories of your Ex
Don’t keep the things he gave you, erase all the SMS he sent and if you can, don’t pass by his place EVER. It’s hard to get over someone whom you are reminded of every single day. Your efforts will just become futile because you will always think of “what could have been” or “what has been”.
Place all your relationship’s keepsakes (yes, even the ring) in a box and bury it or return it to your ex. Sure, they also are emblems of “the good that has been” but it’s not really convenient to have them around peripheral view when you’re trying to bounce back from the hurt.
Keep yourself busy with other things. Take up a new hobby, learn a new language or explore a hidden passion. Who knows, you might even earn from it! Talk about bouncing back!
Rekindle what you’ve Missed
You will probably find that you missed a lot of things because you preferred to spend more time with your boyfriend. You may have missed lunches and Friday night poker with your girl friends. Renew your friendships and join these activities again. You will find out that a lot has happened and you missed them simply because you were “busy”.
Rekindle the joy of enjoying your old hobby, playing with your nieces or getting a regular foot spa. Now that you have more time on your hands, go and have fun!
It’s called a break-up because something was broken. Don’t let this broken thing be you.